Independence

"She had trouble defining herself independently of her husband, tried to talk to him about it, he said nonsense, he had no trouble defining her at all. " --Cynthia Propper Seton

Thought for the day:

To recover means to learn who we are, independent of friends, children, parents or intimate partners. It means knowing how we want to spend our time, what books we like to read, what hobbies interest us, what our favorite foods are. It means understanding self direction. It means charting a daily personal course and staying on it. It means defining our responsibilities and carrying them out.

Having an independent identity does not preclude depending on others for certain needs. Perhaps we revel in massage---both getting and receiving. Maybe we share the expenses of a household or the responsibilities of raising children. Depending on others to meet their responsibilities does not negate our independent identity; it strengthens it. We CHOOSE where and when to be dependent. Healthy dependency complements healthy independence.

Taken from: Hazelden Meditations; Each Day A New Beginning; Daily Meditations for Women; A Hazelden Book, Harper Collins

I had a moment early this morning (while dealing with insomnia) of temporary nervous breakdown. I felt alone and lost and really felt sad that I was not living my life the way I wanted to. For the last 5 years I have lived a primarily happy life. One filled with struggle and joy, one that is fulfilling and loving. I am generally happy! So, why after this 5 years of sedentariness did I find myself feeling that this wasn't my life?

I came down to read January 23 out of the book quoted above and it all made sense. I have NO INDEPENDENCE. I do everything for my children, my husband, my family and my friends. WHO am I, WHAT do I like and HOW can I get there? I have said this before but it has never been something that I explored or tried to find. A couple of months ago I thought I had started...but fell flat again when my husband came home from sea.

SO....the question is HOW do I break free from the dependence I have set in place and find the independence I need to feel IN my own life?

Share your thoughts and stories!

Written by: Venus Goddess, Valerie

Just a word...

Thought: Fear is only an illusion. It is the illusion that creates the feeling of separateness--the false sense of isolation that exists only in your imagnation.--Jeraldine Sauders

We are all one! We have the same goals, dreams and oneness! Fear is imaginative. We create our own future...

Who are you?

Posted by Venus Goddess Valerie

Laughter is the Best Medicine

Thought: A complete revaluation takes place in your physical and mental being when you've laughter and had some fun. --Catherine Ponder

Today I awoke to NO motivation to get out of bed. I am thankful that I have a friend that comes at 0830! We only did a 20 minute cardio video but it helped get me out of bed. Some days are like that, no motivation, no energy and no desire to move! How do you get through those days?

I got myself out of bed, drank some water, brushed my teeth and read my daily meditation...Laughter is the best medicine! We have all heard it said, how often have you made it work in our life?

The meditation thought is "Today I'll seek out those chances to dispense a little medicine."



So the motivation today is to laugh! To make others laugh and in turn find the laughter within yourself! Do not come down on yourself for having no motivation. Just pick yourself up and keep going. Laugh and laugh often this will give you the energy to keep going. And it will always brighten your mood!

Posted by Venus Goddess Valerie

Keep Moving Forward!

Thought:

Resistance is more familiar. Non resistance means growth and peace. Try for serenity today!



So I began this P.I.N.K. diet/exercise program full force and then plummeted this weekend. Nothing horrible but just didn't stick wth it. Now Monday I weighed myself at 189lb and my measurements were all 1/2 in or more! So, without trying I lost! :) Imagine f I tried!!!

Today, I started out strong! Phase One of the workouts and 20 minutes Turbo Jam! I feel good and revved to go!...I set a week goal of 2lbs lost, 5 inches total lost, no more drinking soda and liquor. Letting unhealthy things out of the body WILL release weight and promote energy!

So where are you today? On the couch?, walking?, housework?, yard work? Tell me! Comment!

Do not let resistance hold you back and keep you from moving forward!

Written by Venus Goddess Valerie.

Daily Meditation

Instead of concentrating on why we can't do a thing, we would be wise to change our "Yes, but..." attitude to a more positive one. Saying "yes" means I really do WANT to change my life for the better. --Liane Cordes

We all have "good intentions" when it comes to working out and eating healthy. It's the mental challenge and "it's easier to do it this way" thought that create the road blocks we all hurdle. SO, how can we overcome the challenges? Easy...JUST DO IT (Nike)! Easier said than done? Nope...it's just that simple, just do it already. You are your own hurdle and when you can overcome the negative you can accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to.

Thought: Today, I will do one small task that will contribute toward the achievement of a life goal.

Little by litte...step by step...YOU can climb that mountain and jump those hurdles. Just stop trying to do it all RIGHT NOW and take it day by day.

Set goals. Start small. Start positive!

Written by Venus Goddess Valerie

2012

I started this blog a year ago and I have stopped and started and stopped and started. I find myself at the beginning of this year wanted to start again and keep with it! I want to see changes in my own life that only I can bring! As the above picture says; We must become the change we want to see.

So, today I venture out on that change! Healthy eating, healthy thinking and healthy doing. I want to continue to explore peaceful and healthy regimens that bring my mind, body and soul together. WHO IS IN? YOU!!!!!

On Thursday, December 29, 2011 I weighed myself at 190lbs. I began to use the P.I.N.K. method meal plan (not to the tee) with a start date of January 2, 2012. Today, January 3rd I weighed in at 184.6 lbs. Just by changing what I put in my mouth I have begun to change my body! The little habits like soda, breads...gone! I also as of January 1st, haven't drank. Letting go of old habits is allowing my body/soul to align and come together!

No matter how tough the road ahead, there is always gold in the sand!

Meditation for today: Find the gold!
Exercise today: Walk for 20-30 minutes.
Food: 2-4oz proteins, unlimited veggies, 8-8oz of water. Keep it light and plant-based!
Resources: Exercise.com, P.I.N.K Method! and Sparkpeople.com

Join in, follow and let's begin AGAIN on a journey to a new ME & YOU!!!!

Posted by: Venus Goddess Valerie